I’m sure Many of Us have at one point or another suspected our suffocate other of Cheating, But the real question is are they..
Well looking around I found this posted on http://www.yourtango.com and thought it might be of some use to all the women out there who suspect A cheater in there mist..
3 Mistakes Women Make When They Suspect Cheating
You’ve noticed something weird about your man. He’s all about himself and away from home a lot more these days. He’s on his phone a lot and never lets his phone out of his sight. You just can’t shake this feeling that he might be up to something…and that something is cheating.
Mistake #1: Reacting to Suspicions:
Your emotions can run away from you when you suspect that the man you love has been cheating on you. You can lose your cool and go on a rampage of, “”How could you do this to me you cheating &*^#?” While this is the natural reaction to suspecting that the love of your life has been cheating on you, it isn’t the best reaction. Your man will naturally defend himself and tell you that you are crazy and in all seriousness, you probably do appear a bit crazed—cheating will do that to you! What this reaction will do is just turn the tables back on you making you look like the crazy, jealous, paranoid woman who thinks her man is up to no good. There’s no solid justification for what you are claiming. How To Use Resilience To Face Challenges
Mistake #2: Confronting with No Proof:
You can claim “cheater” all you want, but if have you no proof of it, you are just going on a hunch that he might be doing something he shouldn’t be doing with someone of the opposite sex. That won’t hold and will only make him nervous and even better at hiding his infidelity. When you confront your man, you want to be armed with the proof of his cheating so that he can’t say that you are wrong. You can’t be wrong if you have inappropriate emails and text messages. You are definitely not wrong if you have pictures of them kissing and having sex. Pictures of them having lunch together or walking down the street together is on the border line because he could say that the person is just a “friend”. The more indecent you can get the better. Rebuilding Trust After They Cheat
Mistake #3: Confronting Your Man’s Side Dish:
Many women who find out their man has been cheating will immediately take it out on the woman they have been seeing. Wrong! That woman has committed no wrong. Yes, she knew that your man was taken and that she shouldn’t have been with him, but your man made the decision to enter into a relationship with her knowing full well what he was doing and betraying your trust. The fault still remains with your partner. Leave their relationship alone and let your man figure it out. If he wants to be with her then let them be and you can start the healing process. If he wants to leave her and reconnect with you, and you want to repair the damage he has caused in your relationship with him, you can both start the healing process together. Going after his side dish could lead him right back into her arms. As hard as it is to stomach, he does love her and any ill intentions towards her will hurt him. It’s best that you don’t inflict that towards her, even if she has indirectly caused you the worst emotional pain you have ever felt. Should You Win Him Back Or Let Him Go?
the next thing i Came across was some helpful advice from our friends at about.com
Top 9 Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating
By Cathy Meyer
You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can’t quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation. You suspect your spouse is cheating but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don’t have any proof. So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful not to confuse signs with proof.
If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to lose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone – induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.
This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new “friend”; then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it’s a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.
If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Big warning sign!
Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.
Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating.
In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs.If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed.
Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.
Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can’t explain. Money that isn’t accounted for. Receipts for things you don’t have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day.
9. Your Own fears and suspicions
If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse’s behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then talk to him/her about what you’ve found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives. Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also.
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